Sisters can be such pain and I have 2 little ones. As the oldest I have had a tough time connecting with them and at times feel as if I cannot understand their struggles. I paved the way for them and took the trial run with my parents. But yesterday I had a long ride home with my baby sister and I confronted her on a way she has been behaving toward me. We used to be so close and I feel like my family has had an influence on her. I am the black sheep of my family. We ended up having a really emotional conversation. Its hard for me to see the negative side of being the baby that gets everything she wants and everyone aides her but she has her own struggles and pressures from my parents that hold a toll on her. Which made me realize that our parents have really done a number on us. Being from a hispanic family and the first american generation in the family its so tough. They were raised very differently in their countries and they have raise us with the same style they were. What they dont understand is that the enviorment here is not as harsh as in their countries. So after talk with my sister I realized that even though they learned what not to do they still do know what to do. This has lead to all 3 of us trying to end it. The pressure we were in and the family that has been given to us cannot even realize that their is a pattern. We all felt like this and we are all going through similar situation yet they think they had nothing to do with us feeling this way. That we are crazy and the problem. When confronted they feel attacked, all they do is call you out and make you feel like complete shit.
After our conversation I realized all 3 of us act the way we do because we are dealing with trauma and we just dont know how to be any different. This is our lifes!
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