I shave my face for the first time this morning. Not much there, but I had a little stubble and I was quite proud of it. I felt very manly in the bathroom with shaving cream on my face.
We went out with some friends last night, and my husband was dressed like he usually is except for when he goes to work. He was in women's top and jeans, bra with inserts giving him a B cup, makeup, jewelry, etc., and not really passing as a woman but certainly obviously trying to. We were at an LGBT friendly place and our bartender kept calling him ma'am. Probably because she thought that was what he wanted, not because she believed him to be a woman. I was wondering to myself how he felt about that.
When we got in the car to come home, he mentioned that it was nice that he got some female pronouns and then said he sometimes is bothered that I always use male pronouns for him. I defended myself saying that he has told me he is not trans and identifies as male. He shrugged and said that when we are out like that he likes to feel feminine. He reminded me that he is having only female pronouns at our ceremony next week.
I'm a firm believer that we should use the pronouns that make a person comfortable, but it's going to be hard if it's constantly changing with him. I'm still referring to him as male here, and I'm not sure if I should be.
He self-identifies as a gay male, so that's how I feel like I should refer to him. We'll have to talk about this more.
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