the “friends” I’ve made at college are starting to feel like people I hang out with so that I don’t feel so alone. When plans are made, I’m more interested in the activities than the people I’m doing it with. In school I work very hard on my assignments because I’m passionate about what I do and also i want to make the most of the money that is being spent on my education. It’s not about being the best or being perfect, but I want to do the best that I can. I admire when others are also in love with what they do, and I encourage my friends in whatever endeavors they choose. Recently I shared some plans I had for a project I was doing, and they responded with “oh boy” and “that’s way too much work.” They said this in the past as well, but to me, this translated to “why are you trying so hard?” In general, these people talk a lot of shit about the better students in the class and have said things like “normalize mediocre work!” I have no issues with people doing the bare minimum, hell- I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve done this in many classes that I didn’t care about, but it’s unfair to bring down others just because you feel threatened by their level of commitment. funnily enough, they also talk shit about the students who don’t do enough for class.
I’m gonna backtrack here, but in my eyes, the project was not ambitious and the “work” I have to do is not a problem for me. I was excited to do this project, but these comments basically tore whatever excitement I had. I know I shouldn’t listen to other people and blah blah blah, but really does get to me. Especially since I’ve been nothing but supportive of whatever ideas they had. Is it accurate for me to say they don’t want me to succeed?
My last take away from this is that friendships in trios never work out.
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