Fb post i couldnt post. in Random Life Things

I’ve been doing alot of self reflection on myself over the last year or so. And what I’ve come to accept and implement in my life is boundaries. Growing up we didn’t really have alot of boundaries on how we spoke to each other or treated each other. We knew right from wrong dont get me wrong but not how to set boundaries. How to say, I am not happy with what you’re doing. Please stop or ill remove myself from that situation. As an adult I learnt a lot of hard life lessons because of this. And now im 30. I have a daughter. And I have to do this for my emotional and mental health as well as to teach her. And protect her. For me that means removing myself from situations where I can be talked about. Used. Unappreciated. And drama. To do that I have had to set boundaries. And as you can imagine it has been disregarded by some and that spoke volumes. And then upset others but it was a choice I had to make. I was so depressed and angry I couldn’t enjoy my own family. The ones who treat me with love an respect. The ones who value what I have to offer. Was it easy to. Hell no. Did it hurt. Yes. Was it worth it. In many ways yes, but if there was nothing there for me I’d have removed myself a long time ago. There’s wants attached to relationships. Doesn’t matter who they are. When you bond to them you have wishes on how you’d like to see that bond grow. And when that takes a turn. It can break your heart. But you have to learn and grow from hurt. And build yourself up. Even when its hard.