two years ago I was lying on my kitchen floor in the fetal position while my husband of 25 years stood over me screaming that I had to tell my son (his stepson) that he was no longer a member of he family and never welcome in or house again. All of this because he and his brother (our son together) had gotten into a fight. Keep in mind that neither of them lived in our house at the time. They both are in their twenties and live in different states.

I had stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship for my boys and only had one (my 19 year old baby) at home. I knew I had the strength that I needed when he picked me up off that floor and said “Mom, Its time for us to go” I’ll write more about that adventure later.

I thought this I could finally breathe. That was until reality set in. I had managed to sneak money into a savings account during the last year of my marriage in hopes of getting the nerve to finally free myself. I had $3000,00 and a lot of false hope. In my excitement of escaping my torment I didn’t really think of what would come next. People get divorced everyday right? we just sign a few papers and I get half (I didn’t even ask for half) of everything we had accumulated together over the years. A house, a business, cars, investments, etc. Boy was I wrong! Here I am 2 years later with an eviction notice and absolutely nothing to my name. I have sold EVERYTHING I own other than my car. The judge ordered temporary alimony at our most recent court date ( the asshole didn’t even show up) but he hasn’t payed a cent of it. My attorney can file a motion of contempt but that doesn’t mean anything. He will have another opportunity to comply and who knows how long that will take. It never ends.

I know most of you are going to ask “why not get a job?” which is exactly what I would want to know if I saw some post this. The one thing I haven’t mentioned is, I was left with a disability after a horrific car accident a few years ago. I can’t get disability because my lovely husband hasn’t filed his taxes in years and owes the IRS $300,00.00! It just keeps getting better by the day lol

I am not writing this for pity AT ALL! In fact, the last thing I want is to be seen as a victim. I am a survivor and I will prevail!
I just think its crazy that a woman can’t leave an abusive marriage without hitting rock bottom.

As far as the asshole, he and his 27 year old girlfriend are living it up in our home. She even sleeps on my side of our bed and now has use of all my personal things. Poor girl lol