Don't Make The Same Mistake I Made In Your Life in Ok,Boomer

  • Oct. 10, 2021, 3:36 a.m.
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I am a warning to younger people in how I ended up in my later years.

ALONE.

There is no self-pity in this. It is the karma of my life. What I have created by NOT having close relationships over the decades of my life.

People often ask why I did not marry again. I came close to it a few years ago but knew it was a bad idea. I could see someone wanted to use me and had I married her, it would have been a living hell for me. It is better to live alone than with someone you would be miserable with.

I am not close to my neighbors. I know the first names of people living on one side of me. I think people are less connected with their neighbors these days. If I were to die in my house, nobody would notice it for maybe a week. I think the smell of my rotting body would not be smelled for a while unless some passersby were to pause for a wiff. Then again they might think it’s just a dead animal nearby or under my house. Morbid thought.

Please, cultivate people. Cultivate rich friendships so that at the end of your life you are not alone. Again, no self-pity. It is simply a reality I face. I can call my sister for help but she and her husband are often very patronizing. Condescending. They know they are the only people I can turn to. The only people I have any connection to that could help. Or an older brother that could but I think he is a bit lost (mentally) at times.

Live so that there is always someone that WANTS to help you and that is close to you in spirit. A close circle of friends. Cultivate them like a treasured garden. Nurture their presence well. I did not. I was too independent and that may literally be the death of me.

Dark thoughts but a warning to others.

It makes me laugh that some day I may be one of those horrible OLD people I have read about that a hazmat team is sent in to take care of what is left of me.

I do not mind so much the idea of dying. I had a good life and a bad life. A life. I am concerned about my 2 birds. I gave them a good life and I hate the idea of their having a horrible death because of me.


Sleepy-Eyed John 7 days ago

Thank you for this. It's something I worry about.

Boomer Sleepy-Eyed John ⋅ 7 days ago

I think you are young and you were trying to work on your issues to be a healthier person. In that you will be OK

confusedchick 7 days ago

Saw this on the front page and I second the comment above. I do think about this when considering what I want my future to look like.

Boomer confusedchick ⋅ 7 days ago

I do believe it’s better to be alone then with somebody that you were miserable with.

confusedchick Boomer ⋅ 7 days ago

Definitely learned that too from a couple previous relationships, for sure! I think it's about making good choices too.

Boomer confusedchick ⋅ 6 days ago

Choose SANE people and damn feeling sorry for people and trying to heal them. When I was a nut job I should have retreated and got it together. Self-exile ;-) Not be a burden to others.

mcbee 5 days ago (edited 5 days ago)

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Not completely alone in life, but I did choose to live alone and have not found a relationship that I would want to be responsible for that person into our old age. I love living alone! I don't miss mindless chatter with superficial friends. I do miss long fulfilling conversation with like minds and having someone to do fun things with. Still, this is what I chose and I take the bad with the good. I do have siblings I love and a son/daughter in law with my second grandchild on the way. These things help round the edges off the loneliness.

Boomer mcbee ⋅ 5 days ago

I find most conversation boring and frivolous. I do a lot of that when anxious and remember times of just constantly talking shit to fill silence. My greatest concern is needing help for hospital stuff. Surgeries etc. Or if there is an emergency. I admit to be boring these days having just retired. I love living alone too and have tried to imagine living with a girl friend or spouse. I go days without talking to anyone. Except for my birds. I like dropping messages to people on FB etc but... that's all.

Timmy™ 5 days ago

"Seize the time, Meribor. Live now. Make now always the most precious time. Now will never come again." - Captain Jean-Luc Picard

Boomer Timmy™ ⋅ 5 days ago

I used to get called Picard a lot years ago due to shaving my head and having a clean shaven face. Thanks for being Cool, Timmy.

Timmy™ Boomer ⋅ 5 days ago

When I got my second covid shot, I literally heard Picard's voice in my head, "YOU ARE A STARFLEET OFFICER!" Oh, no vaccine fears. I just have an innate fear of medical needles. I specify medical, as tattoo needles don't perturb me in the slightest. Literally got tattoo #6 today.

My idols growing up where Spock, Weird Al, and the Fonz, in no order.

Boomer Timmy™ ⋅ 5 days ago

I once had a 6 inch needle put through my foot. I was not afraid of it. I was in awe of it. Blood thinner shots... yeah needles ain't shit as long as the person jabbing you is not hungover.

Timmy™ Boomer ⋅ 5 days ago

All I can hear now is Marv's scream after he stepped on a nail in Home Alone.

Lobbastah 2 days ago

When I was married, I was the loneliest I've ever been in my life. I enjoy my own company now and the freedom to do as I wish. I am blessed though with a few good friends.

Boomer Lobbastah ⋅ 2 days ago

I am blessed to have 2 peckers. UgH! I mean 2 birds.

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