Ok so here is the situation, my grandpa (my mothers dad) needs 24/7 care - not a big deal mostly you just sit there. Anyways my mom is his main caregiver, other family members help out and my 16 year old sister helps a lot - she don’t have a boyfriend, no job so it’s perfect for her and she enjoys it because she basically has the house to herself! Anyways my mom throws herself a pity party all the time about how she is there all the time. Even tho she’s only there a maybe 2 hours a day.
My thing is I don’t mind helping out at all, but she always demands that I come when I have other plans.
My grandpa is in a bed and can’t really talk so it’s not like I’m spending quality time with him - he sleeps 90% of the time.
I also have a designated day that I’m there every week; she just tries to get me to come more so she can be there less.
I guess what I’m trying to figure out is: am I the jerk if I don’t cancel my plans and run down there every time she calls?