Here we go again in Life

  • April 20, 2014, 12:08 a.m.
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Things with Bubba have taken a turn for the worst. He left Lucy tonight. It apparently has gotten really bad and he hasn’t told us. She’s been drinking heavily. And, she’s been seeing her old boyfriend. I asked him what that meant and he said he didn’t know. She told him in a fight that she was still “seeing” him. He tried to take the baby and Lucy and her mother (both drunk) attacked him. Short of hitting them back (which he would never do), his only choice was to leave. Apparently Lucy has called her brother to go after Bubba. I’m not sure why. I don’t know if he’s supposed to beat him up or drag him back. The brother is a drunk and has gone to jail before (not sure for what). Bubba was worried that the brother would show up if he came to one of us, so he went to Joe, the guy (my age) that he lived with after high school. Bubba and Joe’s son are friends and Bubba worked with Joe for a while. For all Joe’s faults, he’s been there for Bubba. I don’t know what to wish for with this situation. He says this is it. He won’t/can’t go back. He does plan on having a paternity test done. I don’t know what to wish for there. He doesn’t have a steady job right now (working day to day for a cousin in construction). He’s drowning in debt (the only things they managed to pay off are in her name. If the finance company catches up with him, they will be taking his truck). But, she’s drinking. The mother that they live with is drinking. The brother (who lives there) is drinking. That’s not a safe place for those babies either. Bubba said that he will be calling Lucy’s ex (Angel’s dad) and telling him what is going on and suggesting that he go for full custody of Angel. I want to fix this for him. I want to make it all go away. I can’t. He’s an adult and has to deal with it. If this sticks. If he’s really through with her, then we’ve lost Angel. I am heartbroken over that. If the paternity test comes out negative, then we’ve lost Rose, too. I don’t know if he can deal with losing them both. Watching how Lucy deals with Angel’s dad – she uses that baby as a weapon to hurt him. She’ll do the same with Rose if the paternity test is positive. I don’t know what to wish for in this. I don’t know what to do to help him.
Oh, and just to put a topper on things, my sister found out about the last time, when Bubba was going to come here and ended up not. (Honestly I assumed he had talked to her about it after the fact.) I’m the only one he talked to that time. My sister is furious with me that I kept it from her. I was reminded that he’s her son. I’m just an aunt and it’s not my place to be involved. I told her that I would always be there for those kids and that there were many things I had never told her. He’s an adult and made the choice to call me, not her.
I will admit. I’m listening closely for someone to drive up tonight. I’m the closest to where they live, so I’m the natural choice for the drunk to visit. I sort of hope he does. I’d love to have his ass thrown in jail.


Small Town Girl April 20, 2014

How horrible! I think it will tear him up to worry about those sweet babies for the rest of his life if he lose them. I will pray for the best!

terriberri April 21, 2014

i am sorry he's having such a hard time. i wouldn't know what to wish for either...so hard.

it's awful when our loved ones struggle in ways that we can't help with. the helpless feeling is so heavy.

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