Pre-pandemic. I’m curious how often people talk with their family and/or see them. Does your family ever have a problem with the amount you see them (or don’t see them).
A few years ago, when I was single and working closer to my family- I would see them 3 days a week. Now days (when safe to do so)- I see them once a week. I call my mom 5 days a week. I usually talk with my sisters on a pretty daily basis on chat (we have a group message with sisters and mom). And now with pandemic, we even add video chatting into the mix.
I THOUGHT that a lot. I thought I was balancing my relationship/home/work responsibilities with family time fairly. They disagree.
I got a comment from my mom the other day that really bugged me. She said something about how if Christmas happens, she’ll need to send me her address being I never go there I probably forgot where she lived.
She’s right. I don’t ever go there… because she’s ALWAYS over my sister’s house and if I need to see her, I need to go there. To be fair, in summer- I would because we could all be outside and be safer. Now we’re all stuck inside and I don’t think it’s smart to be hanging around everyone for no reason. We’re all pretty safe. I’m distanced at work (as is Andy). My sister works from home and sees no one. My mom is retired and sees no one. But my other sister is in bars, gas stations, restaurants, stores etc DAILY. She goes over to my mom’s nonstop (and my mom lets it happen…).
BUT EVEN BEYOND THE PANDEMIC. Let’s pretend that’s not even a thing (ugh i wish)…
Not even bringing that into the factor…
I’m just annoyed that I feel guilty for not spending every single second of my free time with them. I love my family, so much. But I work 45 hours every week, try to maintain a household (cooking, cleaning, projects, yard, etc) and spend time with Andy. Life is busy. I don’t know exactly what they want me to do.