Before I write about this chapter, I just wanted to mention briefly that I am trying to manage the stress I wrote about in my last entry. There are three things that happened that relieved my stress.
1) I talked to my mom, who grew up very poor. I told her how hard it is on my self-esteem to know my track record of needing to be bailed out. At this point I’ve been bailed out, on average, every 3-4 years for my entire adult life. So about 5 times. I said that my less fortunate friends have been able to survive without their parents bailing them out, and it makes me feel like a loser. My mom said that when she was in college, she got bailed out by her brother. Because I associate my mom with my less fortunate friends, I was very comforted. I thought, maybe everybody needs to be bailed out sometime. Maybe this isn’t just an indication of MY inadequacy.
2) My friend Aaron said that during his less prosperous days, he relied on credit cards—knowing that he was on a track that would allow him to pay them off later. It made me think, maybe this is what people who don’t have a father constantly throwing money at them do. They aren’t just coming from nothing and surviving totally on their own. They’re borrowing money, too. Just from other places. And there is no reason I can’t do this like the best of them.
3) In the book I’m reading about Small Giants, many of the examples of successful business people needed to be bailed out at least once before they found success. It kind of comes with the territory of making your own path in life. There are probably 1,000 ways I could have followed the beaten path and run into way fewer obstacles, but part of MY passion that I hope to someday embody in MY own small business—part of what a believe will lead to my ultimate success—is the fact that I am not following the beaten path. Furthermore, I definitely want resiliency to be part of my brand, and what better opportunity to practice what I preach in that regard than right now.?
Chapter 3 was about the importance of building and maintaining an intimate connection with the community within which you choose to build your business. The Mona Lisa wouldn’t be what it is if it were anywhere else.
This morning, as I was making myself scrambled eggs, I noticed that they were from Temecula—the place my husband and I are planning on going, the place I will likely build my business. It made me think about how I could network with the farmer’s out there. I could buy fresh fruit and veggies from them and whatever else they make, and I could leave it out in my waiting room for my clients to snack on. I could put their business cards right next to the snack display. And I could ask for nothing in return. It can be solely a means of connecting with my community.
One of the ideas I like about this book is that it talks a lot about working with other people, not against them. It’s all about finding ways to say, “Let me see how I can lift you up,” and just trusting that both by having that attitude and by working hard, the world will lift you up in return.
Last updated October 22, 2020