I’m in love with a person who has an addiction. This is something new to me kind of, the S2BX was addicted to sex which didn’t always end well for me but I learned to live with it 😔. I know that’s sad to say but it’s the truth.
Anyhow Boo is an alcoholic, he admits it and knows it is a problem and tells me he wants to stop. Then he gets a craving. We’ve had the discussion about how I feel I have no right to tell him he can’t drink if he wants to. My thinking he is a big boy and I’m NOT his wife. He says I should just say no but then when he brings it up and I say no it’s like a kid bugging me to buy the toy “oh come on mom, just this time, please, it’ll be fun”. So I say if that’s what you want. 🤷♀️ Tonight he drank.
I told him about an hour ago, I’m not going to sit and watch you continue to do this to yourself. I can’t stand idly by and watch you do this to yourself anymore. I love the man more than that. Next time I told him he would be choosing between the alcohol and me. I doubt he will remember that part of the conversation in the morning but we shall see.
Now he’s finally passed out in bed and I lay here on the couch because I don’t feel like getting beat up all night by his tossing and turning.
Y’all I want help and advice on how to help him. He’s admittedly not an AA person (to much Jesus), he has had stints of sobriety, through this, and I know this is a journey and a lifelong thing that he will struggle with but what can I do in those times when he is craving and won’t back down? Do I sit and try to talk him out of it? Do I just keep saying no no no no?? Do I take his wallet and keys? Do I walk out? I am completely lost.