Hardcore Momming in Staying Connected

  • Sept. 7, 2020, 10:37 p.m.
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I just added a butt ton of stuff to my daughter’s Amazon wish list, keeping in mind her new daily schedule. Today was my first day with my daughter and we stuck pretty close to the schedule. I’m not super rigid about it, and it’s whole purpose is to make my day less stressful. It worked.

I got out of bed when she stood up in her crib, which was around 7:30am. We just had a slow morning. I had breakfast. She had a graham cracker and milk. We got dressed and around 9:20am we headed out. There is a bougie Dollar Tree one town over in a nice area, so we went there and picked up some cheap Halloween decorations and a few things just for fun. That was a substitute activity for “go for a walk,” which I’m fine with. When we got home, she had some yogurt and, of course, more milk, and then I did the dishes. She’s usually fine with sitting on the floor in the kitchen while I do the dishes, and so that’s what she did. Today, instead of doing an activity involving ABC’s, colors, shapes, and numbers, we put up our Halloween decorations. My daughter ate a fruit and grain pouch and then laid down for her nap, and then I ate my lunch and rested.

That was the first half of the day.

When she woke up from her nap, I got out our keyboard and a box full of musical toys. Right now, it’s a sad box. We have the piano that was from the piano mat she used as an infant, another similar toy that was gifted to us, and then some pots and pans that we use as drums. BUT we did the music part of our day nonetheless. She didn’t want a snack, so we moved straight into pretend play. I had just gotten her a bunch of stuff from Dollar Tree—a lion mask, a ladybug costume, a princess tiara—so we did that. We also used some bowls and spoons to pretend to make soup.

That was pretty much our day. It wasn’t dramatically different than our days in the past, but I felt less anxious having an idea of how each part of the day was going to go ahead of time. It felt like the thinking part had already been taken care of. (Thanks, me!) Plus, it was way less tempting to just turn the TV on and stare at it.

Shortly after that, my husband came out and took over while I ran an errand. Afterwards, we all sat outside on the balcony together while my husband grilled us some Beyond Burgers and made homemade sweet potato fries. We ate as a family (my daughter had cheese quesadilla, corn, and another fruit and protein pouch with milk and water).

By the way, I can’t remember if I mentioned it here or not, but I offer my daughter real fruit all the time, and she won’t eat it. So I supplement with pouches and a toddler multivitamin. She’s not a huge veggie fan either, but she will at least eat corn and peas. Food is a big deal to me. I’m pretty much the only person I know who doesn’t turn eating into a power struggle. I just offer my kid food all day long and let her tell me when she’s hungry.

I decided that I’m going to order her art supplies now. She already has crayons, markers, and Play Doh. I just ordered her some finger paints and some dot markers, and I hope to get her a toddler desk by the end of September. Plus I picked her up some sidewalk chalk at Dollar Tree. Then, for Christmas, I’m going to get her a kitchenette and a wardrobe for pretend play. Finally, for her birthday (which is a week after Christmas), I’m going to have my husband convert her crib into a toddler bed and I’m going to get her a new pillow, a new blanket, and a rail guard to attach to her bed so she doesn’t fall off of it. My hope is that her extended family help out with some of these things from her Amazon list.

For outside:
Radio Flyer “steer and stroll” bike (so I can push her and/or she can peddle)

For ABC’s, shapes, colors, and numbers:
Books
Puzzles
Flashcards
Abacus

For Art:
A magnetic drawing board

For music:
A wooden set (tambourine, castanet, hand drum, hand bells, maracas, flute, wooden block with stick, wood sounder with stick, and chime bar with stick)
Ukulele
Floor tom drum

For Pretend Play:
Princess dresses
Jewelry
Toddler drill (she already has a tool box with a saw, screwdriver, etc.)
Construction hat
Broom and mop set

Whatever she doesn’t get from extended family I’ll most likely get her as I can afford to.

In other news, I’ve put some more thought into my saga about not feeling attached to friends. The thing is, I don’t want to give anything that I don’t have to give, and the truth is I don’t have much to give. I saw Jodee over the weekend, and the thing I’ve always liked about her is that she doesn’t ask me for anything. For the most part, our friendship has felt extremely organic. I just show up as myself, and it works. Those are the kind of friendships I can manage. They don’t come along very often, and I’m totally okay with that.

Bedtime for me. Until next time <3


Last updated September 07, 2020


The Thirsty Oriental September 07, 2020

I love your music toy ideas!

Original Rose The Thirsty Oriental ⋅ September 07, 2020

Thanks! I just looked back on it and realized "percussion drum" sounds weird, haha. So I revisited my Amazon list and was like, oooh. Apparently I meant "floor tom drum." I don't know what that means, but it looks cool on Amazon and I figured she needed more than just a hand drum =P

The Thirsty Oriental Original Rose ⋅ September 07, 2020

Haha... I was wondering about that, but I didn't question it 🤓

sourapple September 08, 2020

She is so lucky to have you as a mom!! Sounds like you're deeply hands on and providing her amazing structure.

Original Rose sourapple ⋅ September 08, 2020

Thank you <3

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