What is your dream wedding? in 2020

  • June 5, 2020, 9:25 a.m.
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Maybe not “dream” wedding - but realistically, what do you want?
What type of venue?
What type of menu?
What type of music? (DJ/Band?)
What type of dessert?
What does your dress look like?
Do you have a big or small wedding party?
Are kids invited?
Etc etc etc

If you’re already married- what was yours like? Did you like it? If you could re-do it, what would you change, if anything?

DE_mkately June 05, 2020

yooo this is such a hard question now that i'm older. I would have said ceremony on the beach, just normal reception a few years back, but now i'm like $$$$. I'd rather use that money to travel with my honey! But then I have so many friends. I really don't know what the answer is, how to keep it small and less expensive. Maybe destination wedding and a picnic at a park.

DE_mkately June 05, 2020

also adding that me and boo had a discussion about engagement rings and he's like... yeah you'd def need something real. and i'm like nahhhh, I think diamonds aren't rare and shouldn't be so much money and also worried about ethical. I want fake or a sapphire cuz why spend all that money??? all I care about is money apparently lol.

also, I just went back to look for you to comment again on this and realized I hadn't friended you so I did :) :)

Two Hermits and a Cat June 05, 2020

I was lucky enough to have my dream wedding! My in-laws have a cabin in the mountains right on the river, so their back yard was the perfect venue for the ceremony. Then a nearby hall for the reception. Only invited family and a very few close friends. No bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, or wedding party of any kind. Lunch buffet for the reception, with the worlds most amazing cupcakes for dessert. No dancing, no bouquet throwing. I made the decorations myself, and the wedding favors (boxes of cookies). Floor-length dress I bought from a department store, worn with a pair of purple Vans that matched my husband’s. Kids were allowed, but we had a babysitter stationed inside to watch any kids whose parents didn’t want the hassle of keeping them quiet during the ceremony (three or four took us up on it). It was as small and simple as you can get short of eloping, and I was able to plan it myself, inexpensively and completely drama-free.

If I could go back, the only thing I would do differently is hire a professional photographer. We had a couple family members who are good with a camera who got some good shots, but I feel like a pro would have captured a lot of moments that we overlooked.

PiXiE_KiN June 05, 2020

If you’re already married- what was yours like? Did you like it? If you could re-do it, what would you change, if anything?

I would change the best man as my husband's friend had a tantrum yes man tantrum 15 minutes before we had to march down. And he didn't do a a speech or try to help with my maid of honor incorporate anything fun like dollar dance or etc. I'm sure things would been different if his brother actually made it from college vs using our back up.

I also would like more photos with my side of the family (my husband had more since his parents are divorced and his parents dreaded being by each other). More family photos of us together and with our kids.

m.i.a. June 05, 2020 (edited June 05, 2020)


We got married last year at Imperial Beach in San Diego. We went through Dream Beach Wedding and had a very small ceremony with just family and a couple friends as it was a destination wedding. We didn’t have a traditional reception but that’s the only thing I wish we had done. My family did get us a cute cake and cake pops since we hadn’t planned anything fancy so that was really amazing for us to get back to at the VRBO we had gotten for everyone(since it was a destination we paid for the big ol’ house we rented and had food/snacks/alcohol around since they paid for their own flights/transportation and we didn’t want it to cost them even MORE money).

I truly loved our small and somewhat not traditional wedding. It was so nice to have a bit of a vacation with our family too, so it wasn’t a single day kind of thing. It definitely wasn’t 100% about us and we knew that going into it but that’s what made us happy. :)

Ultimately do what makes YOU happy and not what will make everyone else happy.

Empire of Lights m.i.a. ⋅ June 08, 2020

I love that! It sounds like a nice time :)

DefyingRules June 05, 2020

I go back and forth on this. Sometimes I just want to go as simple and low key as possible (like go to the courthouse with our immediate family and small dinner party after) and wanting the full out wedding with a DJ and photographer and fancy venue and dress. Being as I’m nearly 40, it’s complicated in my mind 🤷🏻‍♀️

Empire of Lights DefyingRules ⋅ June 08, 2020

Sammmmmmmmmmme. I don't think I really want the courthouse thing but I keep going back and forth from like a outdoor shindig or a nice ballroom type thing.

sedentary June 05, 2020

I really just went traditional in a hall - I think outdoor weddings or destination weddings are awesome but the cost and travel deterred us.
I had a big ball gown, crazy happy hour with seafood and ice sculptures, party atmosphere, big wedding cake and Venetian table and I did invite kids only because there were kids in my immediate family. If there were no kids in my immediate family I would have said no kids. Not cause I don't like kids but I know the parents would have more freedom and fun!

Empire of Lights sedentary ⋅ June 08, 2020

Oooo ice sculptures. How awesome!

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