Apologies and uncertainty in Journaling
- March 22, 2024, 2:42 p.m.
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How do you know you can trust someone again? Especially when shit was done on both sides. I received an apology from someone from my past and I think they’re trying to make amends, but I am suspicious of intent. Not only because they hurt me, but I know I hurt them. I’m not even sure why they would want to be a part of my life again.
It’s hard to move forward when you feel like they may have a knife behind their back, metaphorically speaking. How do they know if I don’t hold on behind mine? I want to believe they mean it. I just have trust issues… I need to see some sign, some hint of honesty. Almost collateral at this point. Our trust was damaged that bad.. what can fix this?
cal ⋅ March 22, 2024
Ask yourself what is the worst thing they can do to you and can you live with it.
Sinandsadness cal ⋅ March 22, 2024
This is definitely worth some thought
Sleepy-Eyed John ⋅ March 22, 2024
:/
Scott ⋅ March 22, 2024
Do they have a history with others of fucking them over? Look into patterns of behavior. What happens if one of you betrays the other again? At times I think of contacting people from my past but...not worth it. Stress I do not need. Do you?
Sinandsadness Scott ⋅ March 26, 2024
It’s… complicated. Without diving into all the details, I don’t think they mean to hurt others but I think they overthink and make choices on a whim when they’re usually more logical. But once emotions gets involved they can be a little hot and cold. They’re the type of person you need strong boundaries with basically, and they need time to sort their shit out.
Scott Sinandsadness ⋅ March 26, 2024
Complicated with people sucks. Bird minds are complicated enough for me (I have 2). I hope all goes well with you. :-)